8.06.2007

Dalehole

The other half of my Apache pilot* induced meltdown in June was caused by Dale. He was everything the EX was not: sensitive, patient, generous and, apparently, a player. We hit it off immediately when we met in November, though it was short-lived because he had to go back to his life in Ohio, 743 miles away. Our friendship grew over cell phones, and eventually we coordinated a rendezvous in Milwaukee before the weekend in Chicago with my sister (et. al). She was even smitten by him.

*Since my divorce, I've gone out with an Apache pilot, a Blackhawk student pilot, a TH-67 Instructor pilot, and a retired Chinook pilot who forgot to mention he was still married. Is it time to move? Seriously.

I thought we had a fabulous time together, even imagining it was the first trip of many, so I couldn't understand why he seemed distant after we returned home. I made excuses at first about why he stopped calling - "oh, he's busy catching up at work"; I'd leave a voice message - he'd call a few days later; I emailed - he ignored. I was tired of being pathetic so I deleted his number and tried not to obsess (haha, do you know me?). He doesn't drink or like the same music and he's allergic to cats - it was doomed from the start, obviously.

I haven't talked to Dale in 6 weeks, but he called to wish me a happy birthday on Thursday. I didn't answer, so he's called an additional two times and left messages. WHY? Can't you just blow me off and move along? I think I'd have more luck understanding quantum physics than men at this point in my life. Please pass the quarks.

15 comments:

Wiz's Wench said...

because the SUREST way to turn a man off is to act like you like him. They are soooo frickin weird.

the one who 'forgot' to mention he's married...does he happen to go by the moniker 'wiz'??? *sigh* men so suck

AlabamaGal said...

Happy Belated Birthday! :)

And... the pilot dates are 'cos you live so close to the Fort.I still remember those orange door helicopters buzzing around annoyingly... and we haven't lived there in years.

Men are confusing at times, no doubt.I hope the "right" guy comes around soon for you 'cos he would be a lucky man to have you. Forget all these silly guys who don't know a good thing when they have it. ;)

-Michelle

Haphazardkat said...

He doesnt like CATS? pffttt. good riddance!

Kelly said...

Did you get my birthday present?

Also, I was seeing somebody a while back and we were doing good too, then I made him dinner, and we had a great time. He stops talking to me all together.

Fast forward to 7 months later with no talking or emailing or anything and he calls to wish me a merry christmas!

I don't understand em either.

bender's better brother said...

And women are so straightforward aren't they?

On the plus side I think you must at least have learned to avoid anything with wings.

JustJock said...

Of course, I expect to be ripped asunder, castrated, booed, hissed and thrown under a bus, but I sure do get sick of hearing about how poor defenseless woman are so put upon by slimy men.

Women are no better. They're just more covert about it. Mindfuckers, all.

Say Anything said...

WW: don't they ever wear RINGS?

Michelle: yeah, I know that ratio is probably 3 men to every woman around here and I still have this much trouble. Good thing I don't live in NYC or something...

Haphazard: most people with cat allergies start sneezing when they meet me - always covered in cat fur - but maybe that's why we got along better on the phone.

Kelly: nope - did you send John Cusak this year?? ;)

Monty: to be fair, I should date a female pilot...

Jock: well, you know, this isn't FOX news, I don't have to be impartial, and these happen to be MY experiences.

D to the A to the RREN said...

All these pilots... I am wondering if you are trying to join the mile high club, but I think it would be harder to accomplish in a helicpoter.

Sarah said...

Happy Birthday. Sorry it's a late birthday wish. I'm horrible at birthday wishing, but not quite as bad as douche in previous entry.

Fuck Dale. Yeah, FUCK YOU DALE! I HOPE YOU HEAR ME! Fucker.

Maybe a train conductor. I hear they pack some serious heat- ifyouknowwhatimean........

kay said...

The Wench is right: unavailable = attractive. For both sexes, really.

I'm not kidding the least when I tell you that I've always thought that a friend of my husband's would be a nice match for you.

Not any more. He's a pilot.

Seriously.

No Nolan for you!

Wiz's Wench said...

well, to wiz's initial credit...he WORE a ring but then in january he lost it...and it was oh, so urgent for her to put a new one on his hand. So urgent, in fact, that now, even the indents and tan line are gone from his finger.

JustJock said...

Dearheart: While I realize that these are "your" experiences, may I remind you that I am part of said experiences, and have been for well over 5 years. Therefore, I not only feel like I have the right to comment, but I, also, take umbrage. It's pretty much like saying all women are whores or psychobitches. Wait...those are MY experiences.

Say Anything said...

D to the 162: Pffft. I'm running for president. ;)

Sarab: thanks and, uh, train conductors?

Kay: I can't believe you've been holding out on me! Surely just one more wouldn't hurt...? And how else will I lure a man to Alabama if he can't fly here then leave?!

WW: I suppose we've got to mark our territory somehow...

Sweetart: you're right. It surely must be MY fault I'm too dumb to understand why someone would callously blow me off with no explanation. Poor Dale.

JustJock said...

i could care less about your flyboy or what he did or didn't do to you. I wasn't talking about dale, I was talking about how women blame men for being dogs...without looking to themselves for the reason why or taking any blame. and you said dumb, not me. although...

Steph said...

Men can be dogs, women can be dogs.
You need to find a nice man who's not into games (the bad kind of games) (we all know the fun kind of games are a positive.) lol
Allergic to cats? pfffft
He's not worth your time.
BIG HUGS, Steph